'I have a Life Purpose Question that I've really struggled with' said Jerry
I knew what Jerry was feeling, I'd had my own life purpose question for a long time before the answer that I needed came along.
Okay, so I don't need to repeat the whole of Jerry's email to me. The essence of what was troubling him is in this extract:
"I'm coming up 33 years old. I read your Law of Destination post soon after you made it. To be honest it seems to be saying much of what I've read in a lot of self-help books. That you have to have a life purpose. Have I got it right?
You see I have a life purpose question that I've really struggled with, and I don't think I'm the only one. But I'm not sure, people don't often have conversations about life purpose down at the gym or the canteen at work.
My problem is that I just don't know what my life purpose is. I've read the guides, I've examined my passions, I've looked at what excites me, I've assessed my talents, I've examined my needs. I've tried sitting with pen and paper for hours - just writing. I've laid awake at night trying to examine who I really am. I've written Mission Statements, I've prioritized my goals. And I've prayed so hard.
But I just don't know what my life purpose is. How do I find what my life purpose is? (The link in the passage is mine).
I sent a reply to Jerry, and the main parts were this:
I can't tell you your life purpose no-one can! The most we can do is give you hints that may help you discover it yourself.
Two hints that helped me:
the first came from Brian Tracy: Ask yourself regularly, "What one great thing would you dare to try if you knew you could not fail"?
the second, try completing the following sentence on a regular basis: "If I could ________________ before I die, then I'd die a happy man/woman"
In relation to the Law of Destination:
Your journey through life is like on a clearway, motorway or freeway - No Parking! You can't stop and wait to look at the roadmap, that's not an option. Keep on your journey until you see appropriate signs. The signs indicate destinations that you can reach.
In life, lots of people want to have a purpose and worry that they don't know what it is. Listen! Your purpose isn't totally predetermined!You get to choose your purpose if you want to!
There is no predetermined age to either choose your purpose or discover it. With some people it's early in life, with others it's later in life. Don't sweat it!
Listen folks, don't make your life purpose question a major challenge. Get on with life, test where you are every now and again, and move forward.